More About My “Take” On Perfectionism

Think about the way you expected things to be and how you felt when things didn’t turn out the way,  well,  the way you expected. My stream of thoughts on this “phenomena”:

We expect things (like relationships,  events,  daily activities and everything else in between) to be perfect, as planned,  as if our plans are set out in stone. And when things run their natural course (which is never perfect by the way,  ups and downs are always there),  we get frustrated and angry. Why so much perfectionism to begin with?

And thus my war against perfectionism continues. Excellence,  though,  is a virtue and I am all for it.

Osman S.

The Two “RES” of Decision-Making

Here’s what I scribbled in my note book yesterday:

The two “RES” of decision-making: RESources and RESponsibilities! It’s like whenever you need to make a decision, see if you have enough resources and if there are more important responsibilities that need your attention.

Still a premature theory, in my oh-so-humble opinion.

Lets see where more contemplation on my “The Two RES Theory of Decision Making” theory would take me to. You can join me in this contemplation if you’d like.

“With power comes RESponsibility”!

Osman Safdar

Month of Forgiveness

Few years ago, a bunch of coworkers tried to hit on my self-esteem using their offensive sense of humor.

Basically they started joking about something very silly, pulled me in it and then stretched it for another couple of hours until it got on my nerves. Obviously I got irritated and impatient. When I expressed that I’ve had enough of this, they were like ‘Osman why are you being so serious, we’re just having fun’.

Next thing I did I slapped them hard and said “See I am having fun too”.

But I didn’t do that. I forgave ‘em.

So why bring this up now.

Because Ramadan is around the corner. And I wanted to remind MYSELF a few things on this occasion:

1. This month, try forgiving others. It aint about skipping meals only. It’s about purification of body AND soul.

2. Forgive your body. Don’t punish it by thrusting meals upon meals upon meals into this tiny little chamber popularly known as stomach.

3. How about forgiving fellow drivers and pedestrians. Yep, don’t let an empty chamber be the reezun for over-speeding.

That’s all for now.

Osman S.

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The Myth of 21 Days to Make a Habit

Today morning I woke up at 11am even though I had set the alarm at 6am.

“So” you might ask.

“Nothing”

Just that whenever this happens, I wonder why they say it takes only 21 days to change a habit. Had that been the case  - had 21 days been enough to make waking up 6am every morning a habit  - alarm clocks would’ve been out of business even before you were born.

If you’re like any normal person, then since the last 21 years, not days, you’ve been trying to wake up at 6 – first for school, then for college and now for work. Be honest, don’t you still struggle smashin’ the crap outa the snooze button.

I was reading somewhere – can’t remember where – one MIT student has designed a clock that moves around the room when the alarm starts ringing. So you’d have to chase after it to stop it. So much to wake up early.

On the contrast, practice something “mindfully” for as short as 5 days, and that might get hardwired in the cerebrums. Take handwriting for example.

Back in college, I remember reading a bunch of books on handwriting analysis – more stylishly known as “Graphology”. My friends would bring me their handwriting samples and I’d reveal their personality traits from it. Beware, your handwriting might just reveal your dark secrets to someone who has the eye for it (aka me). Kidding of course.

Now can you really change your handwriting in 5 days? I don’t know. I yet have to try that.

A friend told me at a coffee meetup I attended 2 Fridays ago that habits form when we practice things mindfully. I believe my friend is right. Take fasting for example. Few days into it and it starts to feel like a routine.

I leave it up to you to confirm my doubts – specifically about the whole 21 day equation. Is it even researched? Or is it a legend passed down to us from ambitious self-help gurus?

21 days or 5 – It does take some time. Stop thinking you can bring about a drastic change in an instant. Effort is the currency of success – a lesson Dr. Carol Dweck teaches like no one else in her outstanding extraordinaire book “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success”.

That’s all for now.

G’ Night.

Osman S.

Fitness Studs Lazier Than The Couch Potatoes?!

Yesterday a friend asked me what’s the best time to exercise. He knew I had read a bunch of books on the topic so he thought I’d be able to advice him. And advise I did.

Exercise at the wrong time and you are easily at a disadvantage compared to couch potatoes who spend all the time in front of the wired box.

I am not talking about muscles that rip of out the shirts. A couple of months in the gym and you can get that too. I am talking about “energy levels”.

To explain things better, here’s a story about two friends: Me and another guy. The guy is a fitness freak. He goes jogging every night. He’s got chiseled abs. His biceps soar through the half-sleeves.

And me, I spend a lion’s share of my time reading books, watching internet marketing videos and blogging. And I have one giant ab (wish I could call it a muscle)

Yet he (the other guy) is low on energy levels most of the time. He often tells me how sleepy he feels at work. When he’s not exercising, he’s lazy.

But I, not to brag, feel quite alert through out the day. I can sweep through the daily activities with fairly good energy. My facial expressions don’t look like as if I am on anesthesia. And my voice tone is loud enough to cut through your ear drums (the other guy’s voice makes a gentle pass)

So I don’t want to have a perfect body, if perfect body means compromising on energy levels and alertness and mobility.

Yet this is what you get when you exercise vigorously at night. At least that’s what I have observed.

It’s all got to do with the quality of sleep you’re getting.

When you exercise, your body temperature rises, that’s why they call it “warming up”. But this rising temperature can be a problem.

There’s a reason why nature wants us to sleep at night. And there’s a reason why we prefer switching on the air conditioner before going to bed.

As the night approaches, our bodies favor a low temperature, as it prepares us to sleep. It’s been doing that for ages. Now all of a sudden you hop in your track suit and start jogging like crazy, your temperature shoots up while  your biological mechanism is attempting to reduce the temperature scale a notch so you could sleep well. This internal battle has one result: Lack of good quality sleep.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know what happens the next day when you haven’t had enough of good quality sleep. Yes, the next day at work, you feel lazy, tired, lethargic and what not.

So to cut the long story short, I said to my friend, the best time to exercise is definitely NOT at night. Do it the first thing in the morning and you’ll never complain about feeling lazy at times you don’t want to.

Or…. you’re on a uphill battle against the couch potatoes ;)

Osman.

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I Acted Funny and I Liked It!

Yesterday I went to a friend’s party. One of the games I participated in I was supposed to do something funny. Some did it effortlessly, some did not and I did it while nervous at the same time.

So why am I telling you this? Because there’s a lesson in here I’d like to share with you.

Look, everyone has a comfort zone inside which they feel comfortable. But this zone must be expanded to reach the goals we previously thought impossible, right?

So there are two ways to expand your comfort zone. Imagine if your comfort zone is a circle around you, the imaginary comfort zone circle.

1. Either we can stay inside the circle and try to push its boundaries out to expand it.

2. Or we can step out of the circle and then drag the boundaries farther.

Which one them is them more effective? I think stepping out the comfort zone circle is more effective. Reason: When we are inside the circle, we’re not really sure where the boundaries are. We can only guess and make an assumption. More often we underestimate the location of boundaries and so we don’t make as much effort as needed for expansion to take place. Where as once we step out of the zone, we know where the boundaries are, where the limits are, so can accurately and effectively try to expand it.

In practical terms, it’s when we feel a little nervous, a bit hesitant, thats when we know we are outside our comfort zone. That’s the time to take action.

Just trying to play jujitsu with your mind!

It feels good to try to accomplish new things rather than just sitting at home and visualizing about accomplishment (as self help gurus say).

Anyways, that was just some food for thought. Hope you enjoyed.

Osman S.

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